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Many of us with eating issues spend
our lives waiting. Waiting to be thin enough, waiting to be good enough. Waiting
to like ourselves. Many of us think we would be happy, energetic, and more
confident if only we didn’t have these issues with food. We think every problem
in our life is about not being thin enough because we spend so much time
thinking about food and weight and if only I could lose the weight, then my
problems would go away. We think dieting is our only choice to change
how we feel about ourselves and our lives. But there is an alternative.
Change won’t happen by beating yourself up and punishing
yourself. The
way out is not through deprivation, judgment, and self-loathing, but through
loving yourself, respecting yourself, relaxing and trusting a kind of inner
intelligence.
If you can’t start liking yourself,
respecting yourself and treating yourself with tenderness and love right now,
it is not going to happen when you get thinner. It’s not through changing
your body that you change your attitude, that you change your feelings about
yourself. The way that you talk to yourself is the way that you talk to
yourself. If you punish yourself you will find a way to do it wether it’s
through your body, your work, or your relationships. It’s a self talk, an
attitude; it’s the way you were talked to when you were growing up. It’s what
you believe about yourself (your fundamental being).
So how do you begin liking yourself if
you are not the weight you want to be, if your life is not the way you want it
to be. You don’t keep waiting for life to begin. It’s about how you treat
yourself. What you say to yourself. The day to day messages you give yourself
about everything. The only thing that can change is changing what you say to
yourself. Changing on a fundamental level. Changing the way you live your life.
Ask yourself “If I was my natural
weight now how would I treat myself. How would I dress, walk, what would be the
things I would do. What difference would it make in my day to day living”. Then
live like that. One step after another. One insight, one behaviour change. It
is a journey within, an exploration as you turn your focus inwards.
After what feels like a lifetime of exploring food and weight
and finally finding a freedom within myself. I am excited to be now offering my
insights through weekend workshops, weekly inquiry groups and one on one
personal sessions. See below for details on my next one day workshop.
I hope to see you at the Cinema for the Soul to watch Geneen Roth's movie; Breaking
free, where I will also be talking more about my work and what I offer.
Tracey
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