Q: How does a man behave more authentically in his relationship ?
One
of the biggest changes a man who is endeavoring to be self aware will
make in his relationship is he will practice being mindful of
listening to his partner, instead of attempting to fix a problem she
has. You know the scenario...she
sits down at the end of her day and shares about a challenge she is
having; either at work, or with a friend, or perhaps with a
family member, and he, ..being more culturally conditioned
to problem solve and be solution orientated, automatically wants
to fix her problem. A
conscious man will be aware that he really just needs to listen. And
there are some very simple ways that both men and women, can
change the way they communicate that will create a space for listening.
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Accept your partner as they are. Accept
that generally, men tend to communicate with a purpose, they want
to solve a problem. Women are more inclined to spend a lot
of time communicating so that they can create connection and build
relationships. Neither way is wrong. You can be more available to
listening to your partner by releasing your need to change your partner.
- Ladies, before you get into a conversation with your partner, let your man know what you want.
Do you want him to just listen, or do you want him to support you to solve the
problem?
- For men, in general men tend to think things through
before they talk. So for men, instead of saying nothing is wrong
because you are not’t ready to talk about it, tell her you are not’t
ready to talk yet and give her a time when you can sit down and share
your point of view with her.... Ladies, this is your cue to give
him this time to be "in his cave".
- Ladies, if you want to keep your partners attention, cut to the chase and be direct.
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BOTH men and women need to learn to listen.
Listening does not come naturally. It takes effort to focus on
what someone is saying. The bonus skill is, that you nurture your
ability to have empathy.
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Accept that neither of you is a mind reader.
Assuming you know what someone else is thinking can create a lot of
unnecessary drama.. When we break the word assume down we have
(ass -of-u-and me), perception gets in the way of truth
By
practicing these simple communication skills, men can begin to show up
more authentically in their relationships. They can learn to be
present, be emotionally available and create safety for both
partners to share what what they are feeling, and thinking. If you resonate with these communication tips, and you would like to know more, please join our ongoing conversation about relationships on Facebook. Simply hit 'LIKE' on our Facebook Page.
And
for men who would like to cultivate their communication skills and
harness the power of their masculinity in relationships, the Journey of the Masculine is
a fortnightly men's group designed to support men to be prepared for
the challenges that relationships will bring to their lives. ...(see below for more information)
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Men
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about their masculinity, relationships, emotional intimacy, career,
money and overcoming limitations. These gatherings are also an
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